The past few weeks, I have had this feeling of conviction each time I would sit at the computer. I knew I spent a lot of time online… checking email, facebook, twitter, pinterest and more! What shocked me the most was what I was teaching my children.
Without any words, I was teaching them that I was putting the COMPUTER above THEM. They were viewing the situation as I was valuing facebook more than I valued spending time with them.
Imagine my surprise when my three year old woke me up Sunday morning and asked me to come downstairs with him. I begrudgingly yawned and trekked downstairs. Only to be asked by his sweet face, “Mommy do you need to check your computer first before we ‘nuggle’?” My heart broke in two. He saw that I was putting the computer above his needs… Me!
Shortly after church, my husband and I were planning the rest of the afternoon. I go to check my computer (ya know, because I am so important) and I see this note that my oldest son left for me.
I think he was trying to send me a message. Computer Closed! It wasn’t just a statement. It was an exclamation… closed. Mommy do NOT get on the computer. WE want to spend time with YOU! I received that message loud and clear.
We have had gorgeous weather here in northern California. Deciding to take full advantage of the family day… and the sunshine, we headed to a local park. The boys (and Mommy and Daddy) played, giggled, climbed, ran, explored and more. We were all a hot mess when we left that park.
I questioned myself, what if I had not unplugged and I continued to work during our family day. Would I have missed out on their smiles, adventures, memories? Would we have stayed at home and not really enjoyed our day? I am glad my son spoke truth into my world this afternoon. Reminding me that I needed to unplug and turn off the computer. It was closed. I needed to PLUG IN to my family… that is always open.
I am going to try to make a conscious effort to unplug from my social media/online world when my children are awake. I need to make THEM a priority… make them FEEL like they are VALUED and IMPORTANT. Because they are!
Also, by unplugging and getting away from the computer… it will encourage and motivate me to be more active and LIVE LIFE to the FULL. I will be a living example to my children to MOVE and DO… rather than sit at the computer all.day.long while staring at this mysterious picture on the computer screen called facebook. (my guilty pleasure).
This is a message that *I* needed to hear. I heard it loud and clear. Now I need to practice what I heard and live it out. I am going to do my best to change my focus. But I need your help.